How to talk to your children about shootings after Texas’ deadly elementary school attack
Gov. Greg Abbott called Tuesday’s mass shooting at an elementary school in Uvalde, Texas, a “senseless crime.” But how do parents talk to children about it?
Organizations such as the National Child Traumatic Stress Network and the American Psychological Association have provided advice and information on how to best discuss shootings with young children.
The National Child Traumatic Stress Network advises those discussing shootings with children to:
▪ Start the conversation, as not discussing a situation can “make an event even more threatening to your child’s mind.” Not speaking about an issue can instill more fear or lead children to believe you do not know that the event occurred.
▪ Ask questions to see what the child knows, believes or may be confused about. “As your child explains, listen for misinformation, misconceptions and underlying fears or concerns,” the National Child Traumatic Stress Network encourages.
▪ Gently correct inaccurate information or misconceptions.
▪ Encourage the children to ask questions and have an open conversation. Answer their questions directly, as “having question-and-answer talks gives your child ongoing support as he or she begins to cope with the range of emotions stirred up by this tragedy.”
▪ Limit children’s media exposure due to harmful information, photos or other unfiltered media about the shooting.
▪ Be patient and be a good role model. Be patient as children struggle with behavior and attitudes during stressful or fearful situations. Be a good role model by still expressing our emotions, but also sharing ways to cope.
The American Psychological Association also offers advice on how to communicate with children during tragedies such as this:
▪ Keep our home a safe environment for your children.
▪ Watch for stress, anxiety or fear.
▪ Take “news breaks” and limit the amount of information on the shootings you are watching or having your children see.
▪ Check in with children often.
▪ Monitor adult conversation in case children can hear.
▪ Take care of yourself so you can take care of your children.
The American Psychological Association also advises parents to seek professional help if they or their child is in need of more assistance.
